INTERIOR LOVE AFFAIR

Have you ever looked at something happening in your life and been furious, frustrated, or upset? Wondering why is this happening, what did I do to deserve this? Or even worse, there’s nothing I can do to to change this, I’m stuck with it.

I sure have. This happens when we are not seeing through the illusion. The illusion that the outer reality is cause, not effect.

When in fact, its the other way around. The outer reality is the effect, of our thoughts, beliefs, and energy.

Neville Goddard teaches that the world we experience, is our consciousness pushed out. That everything we experience, and our perception of it, is the result of the inner conversations we are having, the words we whisper to ourselves, the agreements we have make within, and the assumptions we live by.

Thus, one of the biggest mistakes we can make is placing all of our focus and energy into reacting to the external world, and looking to it to as a source for what we want and need.

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The external is just a mirror. It only reflects from our true source, which is ourselves. Neville Goddard said, getting upset with the external reality is akin to being upset with your reflection in the mirror when it is frowning, expecting it to smile, when you are not. It is only frowning because you are.

So, if you want to change the reflection, you first change the source. If you want the mirror to smile, you have to smile first lovely.

If you want the external reality (your life) to change and improve, you have to first change your consciousness, your assumptions, and your self concept.

If we don’t like what is showing up in our experience, with other people or the situations we are living, instead of blaming the person or situation, we can ask what is the mirror showing us?

Try to think of the mirror, the external reality as feedback, it’s simply showing you where you currently are with your thoughts, attitudes, and beliefs.

Thus when something shows up in your life that feels bad when you look at it, instead of blaming it, use it as the feedback that it truly is, it’s showing you exactly what you still believe. It’s showing you a part of your self concept that still exists, that doesn’t match the desired outcome that you want.

You may want love, but still hold the assumption that you cannot have love, that you are not loveable or unworthy of it. Thus the relationships that you are in, will only mirror this and ultimately not work out for you.

You can spend months fixating on the break up of the relationship, on the other person and their flaws or what they lacked, however, truthfully this is a complete waste of time. For whatever is showing up in your reality is mirroring to you what you feel and assume to be true about yourself. 

If you feel and believe differently, the same situation will look different to you.

On a scientific level, the Reticular Activating System (RAS) is a part of your brain that filters information and decides what to pay attention to. Think of it like a mental “spotlight.”

When you assume something is already true, your RAS filters reality to match that assumption.

Suppose someone believed, “I’m not truly lovable” or “I can’t have a fulfilling relationship”. That belief becomes their default assumption, even if they were in a relationship. so while, in the relationship, The RAS filters reality to match that belief. They may notice signs of incompatibility, small irritations, or doubts more than moments of love or connection.  Over time, these “signals” dominate their awareness, reinforcing the belief.

 And because their self-concept didn’t align with the idea of a lasting, harmonious relationship, their actions, choices, and perceptions subconsciously sabotaged it. The RAS was just reflecting what their internal belief expected, so the breakup feels almost “fated.”

As per the Law of Assumption, the person assumed they couldn’t hold on to love, so that’s precisely what happened.

To change future experiences, the person doesn’t just focus on wanting a new partner—they must update their self-concept: They must assume they are lovable, deserving, and capable of a healthy relationship. They must update their self concept and their assumptions about themselves.

Once the self-concept shifts, the RAS starts highlighting opportunities and behaviours that align with this new assumption, guiding them toward a relationship that truly works.

The person will literally notice different things, that they were blind to before. They’ll notice more love and care, and moments of connection. They will only be able to see the love they already feel they deserve and are a match for. They will filter out the rest.

It’s funny how clever our mind is, and how dutiful the laws of the Universe really are. Instead of feeling stuck, we can utilize this knowledge, upgrade our self concept and our beliefs (check out my podcast, Upgrade Your Self Concept Using Your Imagination) to learn exactly how to do this. 🙂

Thank you so much for reading, let me know if you have any questions lovely,

Sending you love and light,

 

 

 

 

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